My Little daughter

It’s a story about our little daughter named Ifa. She is 8 years old and attends Elementary School. Ifa is our second daughter, she has one older sister and one younger brother. He grew up as an independent little girl. In fact, I think tend to be stubborn. Barely able to be friendly to anyone. If you say always with a tone and a cold face. The point is, in my opinion, she is not a nice kid. At least until that day. Because I work outside the home, the intensity of my meetings with children is also limited. Usually, I will start the day in a hurry and more screaming to ask the children also get ready. Going home, in the afternoon I found the children are already tired of playing all day. In addition to my already tired body, I barely have time to relax with the kids. Fortunately for me, children grow up with an independent attitude. All they do without relying on the help of his mother. Especially for my daughter ifa, she is somewhat different from other kids.
If another child is so spoiled with his parents, my daughter rarely shows me a spoiled attitude either to me or to her father. I also noticed her relationship with her brother and sister. I often screamed angrily when she deliberately made her sister cry. I also scolded her when she dared to hit her sister.
Essentially I rate my daughter has a problem with her social attitude. I was a bit worried about her association at school. Does she have friends or friends? Is she liked her friend? Or is she giving much trouble to her teacher? Those questions often haunt me.
Until one day I was startled by a phone call from someone who claimed to be the mother of my daughter ifa schoolmate. The woman cried begging me to allow Ifa to meet her daughter at the hospital. She did not tell me much just said was her daughter seriously ill and kept calling my daughter’s name. I allow it and are willing to drop the ifa to the hospital to see a friend.
At the hospital, I saw a very moving sight. A child my child’s age lies with his head in a bandage. Her eyes were teary with tears. She kept crying while she called my daughter’s name. Her mother said she did not recognize anyone by the impact on her head when she fell off the bike. But to my amazement, why is that kid calling my child’s name? Slowly ifa holds her friend’s hand. And miraculous thing happened. The little girl smiled into the face of ifa. They both laughed together. I can not see it all. I cried with the woman beside me. Her mother thanked me for bringing her ifa to the hospital. At least it can cheer up his son before undergoing surgery.
On the way home, I asked my daughter. He told me about Zica, his ailing friend. Apparently, according to my daughter, Zica is not her best friend. He shunned his classmates for being famous for doing mischief. One day, Zica took my daughter to play during the break time. Because seeing the other friends no one wants to accompany her, my daughter finally wants to play with her because of pity. While playing, Zica accidentally wet his pants. Her dirty clothes were exposed to her urine. Without my guess, my daughter is capable of being mature. She helped Zica to clean her urine traces. Ifa also took the initiative to ask teachers to call Zica’s parents. Unwittingly, her helpfulness had saved Zica from embarrassment to her classmates.
The next day, while playing in her house, Zica fell off the bike and hit her head with a sharp rock. She suffered from severe bleeding and several nerves in her brain were affected. Zica does not recognize anyone even her mother. He just kept crying in pain. And unexpectedly, it may be stored in her brain memory of events that impress her when helped by Ifa.
Hearing my daughter’s story, there is regret in my heart. I am sorry to have given my daughter a ‘label’ as an unpleasant person. I’ve been wrong all along. She is my little daughter who has a softer heart than all her friends. She has his own way to love others without being nice. I am very proud of her.
From then on, after work, I would give more time to listen to the sweet stories of my children. No matter how tired I am, I will make them a great source. And to this day I am very happy to have the full confidence of my children as their place of telling.

My Superwoman

Our family has a housekeeper. She lives not far from our house. In addition to the task of cleaning the house, washing clothes, and ironing, She was also in charge of raising our youngest child. In essence, she was paid to alleviate my duties as a working mother. With her daily presence at our house, my job is greatly helped. I have so little time to rest without thinking about the messy house conditions. Going home to work, the house must be in a very tidy state. Children are in full condition and have bathed. So one day, the disaster arises.

That morning I was ready to go to the office. While holding my baby breakfast in a hurry. Usually, our housekeeper comes at 6.30 am. But this time it was 7:15 and there was no sign of it coming. I was getting restless, the baby in my sling had not been bathed and his face was dirty with food. The shirts I wore began to get stained. Finally, uncomfortable, the baby in my arms was crying loudly. Slowly I put him in his chair. Instead of silence, she cries even harder. I am very panic and hard to think because obviously, I will be very late to arrive at the office. By eight o’clock, she still had not arrived. I finally decided not to go to the office that day. I immediately changed my work clothes and immediately called my boss at the office. My employer graciously gave me permission.

After confident that I had to clean up the house without the maids that day, I started by bathing my baby. While singing, I started to gently rub his body. He loves to take a bath with his mother. After that, I tried to make him sleep by taking him to the front garden house using a stroller. Not long afterward, my wish came true. He fell asleep sweetly. Slowly I take him to his room and start the struggle. The whole house is in a mess. In my heart, I scolded myself why to let the kids play without clearing up last night. After cleaning up the children’s toys, I turned to my husband’s desk. Oh, God…. The table was a mess. The rest of the coffee last night was still on his desk. The papers of his work were scattered. I cuss in my heart. Why my husband does not want to tidy up his desk. While mopping the living room floor, my baby sounds crying. Ah seems to want to cry too. While carrying it I continued to clean the floor. I feel the pain in my back because of the heavy load I carry. Okay … I stop doing housework and decide to play with my baby.

He laughed happily playing with me. Until I did not realize, the time was showing at 11:00 noon. My other kids will be home from school at 12.30. oh my god … I have not cooked for lunch yet. I see the baby was already nervous because hungry. But how do I cook while carrying it? If I put it on his chair, he will scream. I started preparing the ingredients I would cook while carrying them. And that’s not an easy job. Ah, how my maid can do it all by herself?

The baby in my arms began to rebel while weeping. And finally, I decided to order food at a nearby restaurant. Yaahhh I give up. Children come home from school to eat. Ah, the relief…
Late in the afternoon, I had to struggle to bathe my baby as well as send my older son to take a bath. I think I’ve been yelling hundreds of times but he’s still in front of the television. While slightly angry, I turned off the television. My son was angry but eventually obeyed to bathe. I remember when I came home in the afternoon, the house was in a neat, clean and fragrant. The children are clean and full. I finally realized that there were many things I had to do.

As a working mother, I must be able to keep my work balance at home and at work. This is not a trivial matter. I need the help and support of the whole family. Children should start getting used to picking up their toys after playing. They should also have a schedule to observe for study, play and rest time. My husband must also begin to get used to being more presentable in all his work. One more thing, I decided to have time to cook before leaving for office. With all the events of the day, I wondered how noble my housekeeper was. She is a real superwoman. Without her, as good as me in my career, being nobody. Without her too, I am just a tired mother. hopefully, he will come back tomorrow because I want to thank the infinite.

How to Reduced Weight after Childbirth

In general, women will feel disturbed by their weight when pregnant. Most women get at least 7 pounds of fat during pregnancy. These fats are meant to help women save energy while breastfeeding. Weight loss after delivery will depend on several factors. Among them, genetics, diet, exercise or overall health. Most women will return to weight before becoming pregnant within nine months after delivery if they follow regular exercise programs and eat healthy after childbirth. But some are not. Every woman is different, and some women simply do not gain much weight during pregnancy. However, weight loss should be sought after pregnancy, not during pregnancy. During pregnancy, a woman should strive to gain weight because it is healthy for the baby and her baby. It is important for a woman to make sure she has enough nutrition for herself and her child when she is pregnant.

Here are some ways you can do to reduce excess weight after giving birth

1. Give milk to the baby through your breasts as early as possible
This is a powerful way to lose weight after giving birth. While many consider it rather annoying especially for working moms, breastfeeding your child can bring many benefits to you and your child. Actually, it is recommended that you start early. There are extensive studies that reveal that women who fail to breastfeed feed their children gain more weight and have a faster rate of weight gain than those who breastfeed.

2. Not to Consume junk food
In addition, there is no benefit at all for your body and your baby, junk food will also make you gain weight increases. Transfer your food to vegetables and fruit. Consumption of fat and protein is also needed but not in large quantities. Vegetables and fruit will also increase your milk production. Surely it will also nourish your baby. Continue reading

How To Start Toilet Training To Infants

Having a child is an amazing experience. We will continue to be learned for the rest of our lives. One of the most important lessons in childhood is how to teach them to urinate or defecate in the right place. Our success in teaching him today will have a major impact on his habit until adulthood. We can not carelessly teach kids to urinate or defecate. Everything needs to learn.

Here are tips that can make it easier for parents to train their children about toilet training.

1. Identify the sign
We can not force the child to urinate in the toilet suddenly. Identify the sign when the child feels to pass water. See the expression on his face, his gestures, or for a child who can speak, he will say to his father or mother. We can recognize the sign of a child who will dispose of his anxious attitude, or the child suddenly silent after a lot of activity. Surely it takes time for parents to get used to these signs.

2. Adequate age
Never force toilet training on children who are not old enough. It can cause an accident or even trauma to a child. The ideal age for starting toilet training is 8 months to 2 years. At this age the child is able to show his expression, even some can already talk.

3. Learn by doing
Do not hesitate to invite your child to see how you waste water. Certainly in a good way. You still have to cover areas that children should not see. You just need to invite him to the restroom and let him see how you do it. The child is an excellent imitator, so do it with caution. Until one day you will be surprised when they imitate all your ways.

4. Not forcing
Forcing the child to toilet training will only leave a trauma for the child. He will feel the time to relieve is a painful time. You have to be very patient in this. Let him do it when he feels ready.

5. Habituation
It is easy to recognize when it is time for the child to relieve himself. Usually 2-3 hours once he will urinate. So every 2-3 hours we used to take him to the toilet. Let him take out his urine on the toilet floor. Little by little he will understand exactly where he should urinate.

6. Reduce the use of diapers
Gradually reduce the use of diapers in children. Let him feel the wet sensation in his pants. When he is annoyed, that’s the right time for you to train him. Currently, on the market, many diapers are sold that are designed for toilet training. Anada can start to try it too.

7. Hear the opinions of others
Any clever we as a parent, experience is the champion. That’s why we need to hear feedback from our mothers, in-laws or friends who have had toilet training for their children for years.

Hopefully with our success in training children for training toilet will bring good effect for the health and character of our children in the future,

Tips for New Teacher

The choice of the teaching profession is something that most people value. Not just the attitude, the ability of a teacher is also a measure of the quality or not a teacher. For teachers who have faced many years with students, of course, will not face the problem again. But unlike the case with the new teacher who started his career. Here is a scenario that will repeatedly haunt a new teacher.
1. Class Chaos
Your students will hesitate to test you during your first year. If you do not make clear guidelines and expectations for them. If you take the time to plan the early stages of this difficult year, it will save you time and tackle frustrations for you and your students in the long run, as well as improve learning in the classroom.
Plan your students’ expectations carefully and set very specific guidelines and stick to your weapons, be consistent, and follow them with discipline. It will not be easy at first, but if you keep using it, the rewards will be invaluable to you and your students. As a first-year teacher, there will be days and nights without sleep as you will wonder if you are taking the right path. If you love to teach children, hang on there. Each year will be easier because you will gain new insights and experiences each year. Being a teacher is a difficult job. Do not try to do it yourself. The support system consists of family and co-workers Continue reading